If you read some of the content on this site or any other positive or motivational material, one of the messages that is repeated over and over is to not give up.
Giving up is not an option if you truly want to reach your dreams. No matter what challenges you face or how many setbacks you experiences or how many times you get knocked down, you mustn’t give up. You need to stand strong, raise your head up, and keep pressing forward.
Well, in most cases, this is great advice but sometimes, giving up is the smart thing to do. Now before you decide to just give up on your current goals, let me clarify.
First of all, you have to figure out exactly why you want to achieve your goal/dream in the first place. Is it really your dream or someone else’s? Is it something that you really, truly want or something you think you want because you see a bunch of other people going for the same thing?
We pursue dreams and goals to better ourselves but more importantly, we do it because we believe it will increase our level of happiness and excitement.
Imagine spending years to achieve a goal, finally achieving it, and realizing you’re not any happier because it wasn’t what you really wanted. So in the situation where you realize the goals/dreams you’re after isn’t really something you want, giving up is a good choice.
Another thing to keep in mind is that for the most part, we pursue goals for the feelings accomplishing those goals will bring us. Knowing the feeling or experience you’re after can open up more options for you.
If you know the feelings you’re after, you could change your focus to another goal that will give you the same feelings or experience. Just don’t use this as an excuse to give up on something you actually want.