June 16th, 2011 by Kevin Ngo
One of the most common emotions that we all feel while pursuing a worthy goal, is frustration. How do you go about dealing with frustration? Before I get into that, let me make sure we are on the same page in terms of the definition.
Frustration is simply a feeling of being stuck or feeling overwhelmed. Either way, it’s a situation that makes us feel like we don’t have enough resources to move forward with our progress. Think about the last time you felt frustrated while working on obtaining a goal. Do you remember what exactly got you frustrated? Normally, what causes this feeling is when things don’t work out as we planned.
If you are feeling frustrated with another person, the main reason is because they did something that did not meet your expectations. The same goes for your goals. We get frustrated when something is supposed to happen but it didn’t. I’m sure you have felt this way many times in the past. So how do we go about dealing with frustration?
We deal with it by picking our battles. If the thing that is causing you to feel frustrated is something that you can’t change, such as some external event, then you should focus on something else. If it’s something that you can’t change, focusing on it won’t do you any good. It’s like the sports fan who gets frustrated when his team is losing even though he has no control over the outcome.
When you feel frustrated, all that feeling is telling you is that something you expected to happen did not happen. Not only that, you also get frustrated because it’s something that you can’t do anything about to change the situation. So in order to handle this feeling, besides focusing only on what you can change, you need to slow down and break everything into bit sized pieces. In other words, take the issue that is causing your frustration, figure out what’s the main reason it didn’t work out like how you planned, then focus on fixing the outcome by taking action on things that you can control.
By doing these two simple things, you can save yourself a lot of wasted energy on getting frustrated over things that you have no control over. When you pursue any worthwhile goal, you will inevitably hit some road blocks. When this happens, it will be frustrating, but if you focus on solving the issue and getting past the setback instead of being paralyzed by it, you will be one step closer to obtaining your goal.
Until next time…
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Thank you for the great post! Sometimes, I just get so darn frustrated about so many things that I forget to really analyze why I'm feeling so, and what I can do to solve it. Other times, all I needed to do is to step away.
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The post is truly inspiring not just to me but to all.The way you told to handle inner frustration is very practical in approach. I hope it help as many as people like me. Thanks for your post.
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Great post!! I have just recently found this site and think it's going to become a big part of my Daily Personal Developement and reading.
Thanks, I'm glad you liked it.
This message is adorable and encouraging. Many of us go through frustration and they do not know how to deal with it but this post says it all. Thank Kevin for this encouragement and God bless you
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This is a true fact that every person is facing some frustration in their life, But they don't know how exactly he can solved out. By your post we can beutifully deal with our frustration and overcome it. Thankx buddy for ur post & please keep it up.
Will do
this post is realy amazng for those people who have frustated and this post is also inpirational to us and with the help of this post we can easily sort out our problems …….realy good
Thanks
HI,
About frustration i would like to share some thing “my son is 2 yrs old very sharp and very very naughty ” one day i went from my office to home i was so stressed and impatience , my son came and playing with the things and throwing all the things here and there i got very much angry and slapped him ,
Unexpectedly mykid he is really very small boy came to me and said mummy sorry dont get angry i love you mummy and he gave a tight hug to me
I was really very sorry for him being a small kid he can understand my feelings then being ELDERS WE DONT UNDERSTAND SMALL THINGS WHICH CAUSES US FRUSTATION.
From that day still when ever he does some thing i just ask my mind to control the angry as he is small we can make it up………………..
If cooly we think about wht we are angry , we can loose the temper.
this is really good i was always remain with my problems and frustations but by reading this i got inspired alot really i now want to do something great in my life thanks to being there for me and all
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right now i'm really frustrated and i'm glad i found this site, somehow it lighten my feelings towards things..
Glad I could help 🙂
Its truly a very inspiring article. ……… It seems to me that its all about my life. … I am a great enemy of frustration and was searching for steps to get rid of it. . . . I hope this piece of passage will help me a lot . thank u … thank u very much. . thumps up 4 u.. keep posting … 🙂
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Hello ! After hours of practice, I still get around 6 mistakes on my SAT sections, which leads me to terrible frustration. Can you tell me, how can I overcome this ?
Is there anything you can do to change the results? If not, don't stress over it. There's nothing you can do about it anyway. Work on what you can change. This may mean to review the sections you didn't do as well a bit more so if you take the test again, you'll do better.
Hi Kevin, you mentioned that sometimes we become frustrated at others because they do not meet our expectations. What about when they are given tasks to complete and do not do them? Everyone has tasks to complete in order tokeep a business or family running smoothly and when others do not do their share then some people become overburdened. Persons will be polite and remind them that they should contribute but instead they make excuses. Shouldn’t everyone be working as a team to get things done?
Everyone on a team should definitely be doing there part but as you know, this doesn’t always happen. How you deal with the slackers depends on the situation.
Excellent tips! Thank you.
You’re welcome!