The Law of Attraction

October 29th, 2009 by Kevin Ngo

The Law of Attraction has gained quite a bit of popularity over the past few years. This is mainly due to the success of the movie, The Secret. Although it was a great movie that exposed many people to this law, after seeing it several times myself and gauging the reaction and understanding of other people, I realized that The Secret gave people some false thinking. So what I will be writing about in the article is how this law is presented and how to correctly get the most out of it.

What Is It?

So what does The Secret say about this law of attraction? Basically, we become what we think about. When you intend something to occur in your life, the forces of the universe will cause events to take place that will lead you to obtaining that which you intended. What this means is that you can ask for what you want by intending it in your mind and then allow it to come into your life. By allowing it, what that means is that you believe that what you intend will happen without a doubt.

When you doubt, it will drive away what you want. This is the opposite of the law of attraction. One of the main reasons why most people don’t get what they want is because they simply don’t believe that they can obtain it. Because of this, events that could have led to them obtaining their intentions will never manifest.

The Problem

Okay, so this all sounds good, but what is the problem here? After seeing the reaction of several people as well as watching and reading the reactions of dozens of people online, I realized that many of them believe that to have this law work, all you have to do is intend something and that’s it.

There are two common approaches to this. The first is what is instructed in The Secret and that is to just intend it and let it be. Basically, you “place and order with the universe” and just go on with your daily life and it will come. The second common approach that many people take is to visualize what they want as already being their reality. So every day, upon waking up and before going to bed, they would visualize and see their dreams as if they have already been achieved.

After the success of The Secret, a ton of people all of the sudden became experts and started to sell books and audio programs about the law of attraction. This concept has been around for the longest time but it was that movie that got it to become well-known. What made it even more popular was when Oprah interviewed some of the people who were featured in the movie.

Okay, so if this many people are talking about this law of attraction, then it must be working right? Well, not quite. Think about it. If what this movie taught was enough for you to achieve all of your goals and make your life they way you have always wanted it, then what is the purpose of all of these people coming out with books and programs based on this law? Some people may say it’s exploitation, that these authors are riding on the success of The Secret movie to make money. Some people say they just want to make the law clearer.

The Truth

So what’s the truth here and how do you really make the secret law of attraction work for you? Let’s get one thing straight. Nothing will change in your life unless you take action. So if you thought that you can just “intend” and not do anything and expect your life to change, good luck intending for the rest of your life. Knowing what you want is important because it gives you a goal, a focus to go after. Visualization is important because it helps you believe that you can achieve those goals. However, these things are just a part of the steps that you need to take to accomplish your goals.

Once you know what you want, you need to make a plan and start taking action. While you’re doing this, you can visualize the end result to increase your belief that your dreams will come true. The more you believe you can do it, the more action you will take and the greater your chances in actually realizing those dreams will be.

When you feel negatively about your intentions, meaning you don’t think it will happen, you will push it away according to the law of attraction. This sound logical but what is really happening here? Basically, when you start to think you can’t achieve those goals, your belief level drops. When your level of belief in achieving those goals drop, you will tend to take less action and therefore, will decrease your chances of achieving your goals.

I’m not saying that this law doesn’t work, it actually does work but there are some misconceptions of how to actually make it work. There are dozens of stories about how someone saw The Secret movie and went out and bought a lottery ticket. I have to admit that the presentation of that movie was pretty good. It got me to think about life and how everything and everyone is connected. Perhaps we are but if you saw that movie or read about this attraction law and think that all it takes is visual imagery or sitting on your couch intending all day, then you’re wrong. If you don’t understand the concept then money and the law of attraction won’t go together very well.

I got the sense that the movie and all of the follow up books and audio programs from dozens of experts in the self-help field made achieving your dreams sound way too easy. It’s like giving people a reason to be lazy. If anything, then it’s a great marketing tactic because who doesn’t want take the easy road? Why make life harder than it already is right?

I believe the laws of attraction works but you have to take a different approach then what seems to be presented by the movie as well as a lot of these authors.

How to Use The Law of Attraction

1. Know what you want.

This is basic. Without a goal or a focus, you will waste a lot of time. When you know exactly where it is you want to be and spend most of your time going in that direction, you will have a much greater chance of getting there.

2. Believe that you can achieve it.

There are lots of things you can do to help increase your belief such as surround yourself with the right people and using visualization. For most of us, having a million dollars seems impossible. It’s difficult to truly believe it. However, for a millionaire, it’s like believing in gravity. It’s already their reality so it’s not at all impossible. If they lost everything, they can get it all back because they know it’s possible.

By surrounding yourself with people who are already well on their way of achieving the things you want to achieve or with people who have already achieved it, your beliefs that you can create the same reality with your life will skyrocket.

In terms of visualization, when you see your goals as already being accomplished, it will help give you more confidence in yourself and that will allow you to take the necessary actions to accomplish your goals.

3. Take massive action.

You should realize by now that you must take action in order to achieve your goals, but how does this relate to the law of attraction? Well, once you know what you want and believe that you can get it and start to take action, things will start happening to help you achieve your goals.

In The Secret, the movies talks about how once you intend something the universe will move to bring events and people into your life to help make your dreams a reality. The truth is, YOU are the one who causes these things to come into your reality, not the universe. You can intend all you want but if you just sit on the couch all day, nothing will change for you.

Let’s say your goal is to get fit. Do you think just intending it while sitting in front of the TV is going to move you any closer to your goal? Of course not. It’s when you get off the couch and go to the gym that your life will start to change.

What It Really Takes

Realize that a lot of these books, audio programs, seminars, and workshops that teach the law of attraction or any other method of achieving your goals will try to make it sound really easy in order to entice and draw more people in. If I were to tell you that I have found a way to achieve any goal you want but it will take a LOT of hard work, would you be interested? Most people won’t be. However, if I told you that it will be almost effortless, do you think people are more likely to buy into it? Of course. It’s just human nature to find the easy way out.

Look, if you want to create the life of your dreams, you need to work hard on the right things. Sure, there are some people who barely lifted a finger and have a life most of us can only dream of but that’s the exception, not the rule. Until you get out of that mindset of looking for shortcuts and always taking the easy road, chances are, you won’t achieve your goals.

Again, the law of attraction does really work but it can only work if you work. It’s not some sort of mystical magic phenomenon that will suddenly change your life. It’s really just about knowing what you want, believing in yourself, and taking action. When you take action it means you are making a change. How do you change your life? You do it by changing your daily actions. As you do this, you’ll “attract” the things that you want.

If you have had success with the law of attraction, I think the main reason is because it got you to believe that achieving your goals is possible. Because you finally started to believe in yourself, you started to take the correct steps to make your dreams and goals a reality.

Final Thoughts

So in conclusion, success isn’t easy. Achieving your dream life isn’t easy. If it was, we’d all have what we want. If all you had to do was intend and wait for things to happen, you’d have all that you want right now. For the longest time I kept believing that it was stupid to work hard if there was an easier way. I later found out that it is in the hard work that you will find the real secret to achieving your goals, and that is to continually produce.

Knowing the law of attraction is a good start. It will at least help you understand that you need to have a strong belief in yourself in order to achieve your goals. However, without taking action and producing results, you’ll never get what you want. People who say it’s easy only say that because either they are trying to scam you out of your money or they are doing something they love and work doesn’t feel like work to them. Whether or not it feels like work, you still need to work hard to accomplish your dreams. Period.

So stop intending and go out there and actually do something!

Until next time…

Love Life. Do Good. Live Well.


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