August 3rd, 2011 by Kevin Ngo
If you were to start a business today from scratch, how long would you work to see a profit until you would decide to just quit? Of course the time line would depend on the business, but I would imagine your answer to be something that was at least a year. The reality is however, many people would quit well before the year is up. So what is one of the main causes and killers of success? The answer is impatience.
With all the hype and advertisements enticing us to give into our instant gratification urges, it seems that more and more people are getting a bit impatient when it comes to producing results. Think about people who go on a weight loss program and quit after a few months. The only reason they quit was because they weren’t seeing the results they wanted quick enough.
Have you ever done this? Have you ever set a goal and only after a few weeks or even months of working on it, you decided to quit? I realize that sometimes people are just doing the wrong things, but many times, they were just expecting too much too soon. If you want to be able to stick with your goal until you achieve it, then you must be patient. Anything worth obtaining will take time.
So how do you deal with impatient feelings? You get knowledgeable and plan it out. You must do a bit of research to find out about how long it would take to accomplish your chosen goal, then plan out your actions and expectations accordingly. Too often people will throw themselves onto the path of achieving a goal without know how long it will actually take.
If you wanted to lose 50 pounds, for example, you must find out how many pounds a month you should expect to lose. That way, when your first 30 days is up, and you step on the scale and see that you have lost 8 pounds, you will be motivated to keep on going. Suppose you didn’t know this piece of information and expected to lose all 50 pounds the first month. If you see that you’ve only lost 8 pounds, you will most likely get discouraged and quit.
Being patient just comes down to knowing what to expect. If you expect to be in your car for an hour in traffic while driving home from work, you’ll be more patience with the slow moving traffic compared to the guy who thought the drive would only be 20 minutes. So the next time you set a goal, take the time to find out how long you should expect it to take to obtain that goal. This will help increase your chances of not quitting too soon. Just be careful not to buy into promises from people who are trying to sell you something since many tend to exaggerate.
Until next time…
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You're welcome Dee! I'm glad the article helped.
good article about patience…
Thanks.
Kevin Ngo , you are specially constructed by god to serve people in such a nice way,Hats off to god for making you.
I'm just a guy with a website but I try my best π Thanks.
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Am really very near to your story in real life , i realised tht i should not quit till i reach the Goal, thank you so much ,
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Good article Kevin. I would only add that in setting your goal and making your plan to achieve it, you should also factor in the sacrifices that would be required, such as giving up some activities and even relocation. A support network is also critical for achieving your goal; this includes family, friends and associates. For more on this, I can be contacted at kr0636@shaw.ca.
Cephas Reyes PhD
thank u for this article, am on my way to a school to give a motivational talk to the students and i think this is the right article to lean my insight on…….thank u
Awesome and good luck on your speech!
Very good and persuasive article!
I’m from Russia, so it is really actual here (espeΡialy example about traffic).
Thank you!)
Glad you liked it!
very good article Kevin, you are doing really a noble job. god bless u.
Thanks, Ajay π
Sometimes, I think we underestimate the time it takes to complete a goal especially when we face many obstacles that causes delays. We need to allow for adequate time to complete each goal without feeling rushed. If we do more research then we will know what to expect and plan accordingly. It also means that we need to set aside time like a day or weekend to really plan our goals. The challenge is to completely unplug from our electronic devices and the Internet and avoid distractions and really write down a list.
I am learning so much from reading your articles and I now understand why I felt so overwhelmed at times. I focused on too many goals and thus faced too many obstacles to deal with at once. It is already the 4th month but I need to review my goals again, select only a few to focus on and put a realistic time-frame.
Your articles are very motivating and informative. They really get persons to stop and think critically about their lives, goals and dreams. I can see why you chose that name for your site and for your article section. Keep up the great work.
I did the exact same thing in the past, focusing on too many goals at once. I ended up falling short on pretty much all of them. So now, I only choose 1 or 2 goals.
I really appreciate you taking the time to comment on my articles, Tammy. It’s always good to know people are reading my articles and finding them useful in some way. π
I am bless, I am highly motivated
Well thanks a lot for the uplifting words just what I really need to hear anyway a very big thanks for taking your wonderful time to write this important article…….
You’re welcome π