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Overcoming Fear
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that was great insight for me. I didnt know that fear is actually a state of mind which i can alter. Someone once told me that fear is like a dark room where negatives are developed and that can by action-doing good.
Fear is something that we learn. One of the biggest fears that many people have is the fear of rejection but that's not something we are born with. I read somewhere that the only two fears that we are born with is the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. Thanks for commenting.
so true!
I've only just discovered this blog/website today, and I have to say that I'm impressed. There is a wealth of sensible simple truth here. Well done!
Thanks for the compliment Graham. Enjoy the rest of the site.
i liked it and every word was really motivating greatly done.
Thanks Girish.
Interesting, you clearly have similar opinions about fear as Steve Pavlina. I liked the explanation, down to earth and relatable.
Really captivating – Examples of overcoming fear as you proceed and your fear tend to change with every action was exhilarating and would help to change everyone’s thought process and overcome the pre-concieved notion.
Thanks Vinay.
really great article, thanks!
INSPIRING!!!!
Hello, I have a very important test coming up next week. And, as you can guess I'm terribly scared of it. I'm scared that I won't pass the test. And although If I fail the test first time I can retake it one more time. But, If I fail it the first time, I know for a fact that my confidence will drop way more than it is now, since this is test supposed to be very elementary and very basic. I guess I'm afraid of realizing that my academic skills are in fact below the level compared to one of my age. And whether it was by choice or not not finishing school it would hurt terribly to find out the outcome of my upcoming test.
Being nervous about a test normally just means you feel that you need to study more. If you have studied all that you can and still feel nervous, realize that this is normal. There are a lot of ways to calm your mind down which you may want to look up online. Things like breathing deeply, tightening up your body and the slowly releasing the tension, listen to classical music, etc. Different things seem to work for different people so I'm not sure what will work for you. Some people perform better under pressure as well. Worse case scenario, if you fail the test, you will at least know what to study for in order to pass it on your next try.
Thank you, 'Kevin Ngo'. I'm realizing that best thing to do is keep preparing myself in every way: mentally, academically, physically. And just go for it! I shall post my test results next week. Hoping for the best, Maria.
Well, I took my test and I failed in one subject of the test and got 98% out of 100 on the other. But strangely, even tho I failed in one portion of the test I don't feel less confident or extremely upset about myself (although, I anticipated all that). My point? I overcame my fear. At least in one small aspect of my life. Baby steps can lead farther than you think, right? P.S. I'm going retake the failed portion of the test just to show myself I can pass it with a little prep. But, I'll not be pursuing the field I had to test for since I found a longer but a lot less expensive alternative route. Wish me luck! Best, Maria
That's good to hear. Yes, baby steps will lead you much further than you think if you take enough of them. Thanks for the update Maria and GOOD LUCK on the retake as well as the new route!
To get going don't wait to feel motivated,break the goal down,complete just 1% and you will then feel motivated to do more.
Good advice.
I had been dating this gal for 6 months, I never opened up or shared anything with her because I was afraid she would leave like in the last 2 relationships I had. We had a big fight (verbal) and stopped seeing each other. I loved her and tried to fix things up. I read some books and seen that this relationship probably ended for the same reason as the last 2, my not openeing up. We have been “seeing” each other for the last 18 months but now SHES the one afraid of trusting me again for fear of being hurt again. I have been opening up more and she says that Im a much better guy now than before but she is just afraid. She had a rough childhood and a physically abusive marriage before we got together. Any advice to get her to trust me….again. I know Im asking alot of her but at the same time, Im putting myself out there and taking the chance of her hurting me again.
Tom,
I'm not an expert in relationships but I do know that trust takes time. We all take the risk of getting hurt when we put ourselves out there but at the same time, holding back and being closed in a relationship will only cause the other person to do the same most of the time. Being hurt is not a pleasant experience but I believe if you don't open up, you will miss out on the possibility of having a much greater, deeper, and more loving relationship. As for her, it seems like she needs someone who she can make her feel safe and protected. Show her you are that person.
Hopefully others here can offer better advice.
As I said, the last 18 months I have opened up and she says that Im much better and she wishes I had beenlike that from the start. I think if I could get her to do the work I did, she would turn around and loose her fears as I did. The trouble is getting her to understand that.
Thanks for your sharing. It really inspires and support my soul a lot. It helps me to have more motivation to touch my dreams
Glad it helped 🙂
what is the meaning of fear? what are the ways to get rid of examination fear.
when there is so much tension what is the best alternative to reduce the tension.
Having anxiety or stressing over an exam is common. There are many ways to deal with this but for me, I dealt with it by preparing for the exam as much as I can. Before the exam, you're pretty much in control of how much you can study. Once the exam begins, it just comes down to what you can recall.
One of the things that I was taught to do if I was feeling nervous before an exam was to tense up my body as much as I can for a few seconds and then slowly release the tension. Regulating your breathing and realizing that in the whole scheme of life, the results of this one test won't make that much of an impact. Of course, these suggestions are best used if you're actually prepared for the exam. Try different things to see what works best for you. Even things like getting plenty of sleep and eating healthy foods will help as well. I hope this helps.
Thanks for this! 🙂 But I just thought that the word FEAR means false expectation appealing real. 🙂 Am not sure though.
That’s an acronym someone made up but it is true. Most of our fears are caused my us imagining outcomes that hasn’t yet happened.
Hi Kevin, you mentioned a few examples of fears such as fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of success and even more common the fear of flying and public speaking. I agree that the fear lessens with action so the more you practice then the less fearful you are. However, please explain the fear of success. Is it more a fear of becoming famous and having too much wealth? I have heard the term before but I am not sure what it really means.
This is just my interpretation but the fear of success could mean not wanting the added responsibilities and stress that comes with more success. It could also be that some people don’t feel worthy past a certain level of success so once they pass it, they feel like they don’t deserve it and tend to do things to bring everything back down to a level they feel more comfortable with.
Thanks for the clarification. Persons should remember that when they work hard to achieve a goal they should feel proud and know that they deserve the success.
On the other hand, I can understand why persons might not want the extra responsibilities and stress. If it is a situation where they did not want to accomplish that goal for fear of success, should they try to discuss it with other persons involved?
Many times, the fear of success is subconscious so it’s not always easy to detect. Sometimes, it stems from deep rooted beliefs of unworthiness or just something simple as really believing money is evil or it’s lonely at the top for example. So if that’s where it’s coming from then I guess talking about it wouldn’t hurt.
If someone is not taking action, it’s probably not because of the fear of success. I believe the fear of success is where people actually work hard, become successful, then self sabotage their success to return back to where they feel more comfortable.
I don’t think this fear is something most people have to worry about. The fear of failure is way, way more common.