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The Number One Factor of Success
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Personally I think the number one factor of success is being happy with yourself. If you know (and love) who you are, the success comes a lot more easily. However, there are some great points in this post. Thanks for writing it!
Being happy with yourself is definitely critical to success and it does make it easier, but happy or not, if you surround yourself with people with low standards, you can only go so far. Surrounding yourself with the right people can increase your sense of what's possible. Thanks for commenting.
You've touched on an important factor of success here. One of the necessary components of achieving is to raise your standards. Even if we have higher standards than our friends, we will “make allowances” in our mind for our friends' lower standards. What this will do is to break down our standards to a lower level. So, you are right! Birds of a feather do flock together! Thanks for the good read. 🙂
Your “make allowances” coment is so true. Most people do that without even realizing it. Thanks for the comment.
The hard truth is reality that we all must face. I am glad you wrote about these points. There are very few posts that I liked reading and yours is certainly one of them. My friend has a blog and she too writes beautifully.
Thanks for the compliments Hope. Sometimes it's easier to not believe this even though it could be the key that we're missing to become successful. The truth can be harsh sometimes but it is what it is.
Interesting article but the premise is absolutely, positively, 100% dead wrong!
Having the right peer group, loving yourself, being great decision-maker, living by higher standards, etc, etc, etc are all positive “aspects” of success but they're certainly not the number one factor. The number one of success (hands down) is: DESIRE!
All the other factors mentioned are supportive components of success — but without the DESIRE to go to the next level, NOTHING else happens. In fact, it took desire for you to get be where you are now.
Having an IDEA about something is the true “starting point” of all achievement but again, without the DESIRE to act on it and move ahead — NOTHING ELSE WILL EVER HAPPENS!
Doctor “j”
I absolutely agree that nothing happens without first an intense burning desire. To sustain that desire however, you need to surround yourself with the right people. Also, that desire has to come from somewhere and usually it's who you choose to surround yourself with who will influence your desire.
You can be in a gang and have an intense desire to kill someone but meet a mentor who influences you to change the desire into leaving the gang and turning your life around for example. Desire is definitely an important factor to success though, I won't argue about that. 🙂
Thanks Kevin, really enjoy reading your post, I've read it twice and have to say I 100% agree with you. In fact I rarely see such an opinion between people, however it's true that we are part of a bigger society and our best friends and “peer group” are our main channels of communication.
Thanks for the comment Eddie. Being able to filter that main channel of communication is highly important, although, the filtering process can be difficult.
Yes, who we spend time with will form and contribute to our character. They can lead us toward a better or worse person.
I believe having a strong spiritual life comes first. That will give you the love for yourself, desire to succeed, and action to associate with the right people, places and things,
Having a spiritual life can be very powerful indeed. However, that still depends on the people you choose to surround yourself with. You can be “spiritual” and be taught that money is the root of all evil for example which can cause you to limit yourself in life. You can love yourself, have a desire to succeed, and even take action but if the base of all of those things are limited to your spiritual beliefs, you will only allow yourself to go so far. Just my opinion of course, thanks for commenting.
Hi kevin, I really appreciate YOU for this amazing article.
Thanks Jrbayang 🙂
I remember you mentioned that sometimes we need to do the right thing like meet the right people and other books have mentioned how much our peer group influences us. You said that we need to get ourselves and our closest friends at a higher standard of life or get new friends. I can agree that peer pressure influences us to eat certain foods or attend certain events or wear certain brands.
However, while social media makes it easier to connect with others in different parts of the country or world, getting those persons to be in our own community is a challenge. On the other hand, changing our friends so that they live a better life is even a greater challenge. How do we associate ourselves with people already living the life we want? For e.g. we might be their followers on LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter and so we learn a lot from them but how do we become real friends with them? Or even better how do we find that peer group in our own community?
I don’t know what the best way to find the peer group we want is but one way is to start living at a higher standard. Since our peer group consists of people who are like us, by doing this, you’ll start to naturally attract people into your life who live by the same standards.
For example, if you start getting into fitness, you’ll likely spend more time at places fit people spend time at (gym, hiking trails, running events, whole foods stores, etc.).
In other words, become who you want to be and you’ll attract people who are like you. This is basically why we have the peer group we have in the first place (shared interests, similar standards, etc.).
Again, this isn’t the only way but I think it’s a good place to start.